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I have a unique and special bride to feature as my first Bombay Bride.
Please give a rousing applause to Cindyann Dique – a 21st century bride who created her own wedding gown with help from her mother!
(At this point, I ought to mention that I’m slightly in awe to know a bride who made her own gown.)
Cindyann is Anglo-Indian, Goan and Mangalorean in ethnicity and a teacher in Vasai, while her groom Joel is of East-Indian and Mangalorean ethnicity and works for a collection agency. They both celebrated their nuptials last year, at St. Micheal’s Church in Manickpur, Vasai.
Her gown was inspired by an image she had in her head from a long time. While the internet did help her get a feel of any new trends and changes, she ultimately discarded them all in favour of her original concept.
A tight budget took her all over Crawford and Manish Markets in search of the two main fabrics she required – beautiful lace and cut-work for the gown and satin for the lining. As gold and cream featured strongly in her theme, she was on the hunt for lace with a hint of gold in it. She ultimately ended her search with the beautiful laces on offer at Valkan’s at Crawford Market, Marine Lines, Mumbai.
Initially, she did consider getting her gown stitched by a tailor, however as most of you will attest to it, a good bridal tailor charges a heavy sum for a wedding gown. It was Joel’s mother who convinced her to stitch her own dress and who reasoned that it would be a wonderful heirloom to pass on to the next generation some day.
“I love my dress, but it is to my eyes, amateurish. I keep thinking I should, and could have done this and that to improve it.”
Cindyann’s maternal grandmother had stitched her own wedding gown, so it was decided.
If you see her exquisite gown, you’ll agree when I say that it would be one of the most precious gifts to pass on to your own daughter or daughter-in-law someday. Well worth the effort of putting in over 16 hours of work for each day of a week even after a month of labouring, I would say.
Shoes: Bootmaker, Andheri
Bouquet: Fresh white roses from a local florist, assembled by Cindyann’s mother
Jewellery: Gold set (gifted)
Cindyann’s mother helped with the veil, using about 2.5 yards of lace and netting. The lace had to be cut and was stitched to the netting by hand – a painstaking process.
“I didn’t want to wear any necklace, just delicate earrings. But gold in India is considered a sign of prosperity and pride, so I had to wear one.”
Material for the Bridesmaids’ dress was also procured from Valkans and were handed over to a tailor – who did a terrible job on it. Another tailor however, was found in time and he completed the dress three days before the wedding. What a marvellous tailor, don’t you agree!
Joel, who appears to be a very efficient groom, took care of his attire for the wedding day. A bespoke suit tailored tuxedo-style at the excellent Raymonds showroom in Vasai West did a fine job. Keeping with the theme, he chose to wear a cream shirt and a gold tie.
The Best Man sorted out his own suit as well, at his preferred tailor.
In the bride’s own words, this is how she felt when she stepped into her gown for the first time:
“When I wore the complete gown for the first time, it was one night before the wedding. I was just relieved that we had completed it!”
She further confides that the wedding day found her so rushed and nervous that she simply couldn’t savour the moment – an understandable sentiment when you are the bride and the recipient of so many judging, measuring eyes. However, gushing compliments from the women and photographs from the wedding album assured her that her gown was a hit. “Yes. The gown was totally me. I love it“, she asserts with a sense of elation.
“Yes. The gown was totally me. I love it.”
A wise woman, indeed. And one I’m proud to feature as my first Bombay Bride. I hope you enjoyed reading her story as much as I did writing it.If you have any questions or wedding wishes for Cindyann Dique, why don’t you pop them in the comments section below?